A WOMAN DIFFERENT
She is a mother,
a sister,
a wife,
a friend.
She's God's answer to man's question,
she reminds you daily to count your blessings.
24hours are never enough to show her love,
she encourages, motivates and inspires.
No you won't see her trying to front.
you'd feel it when she loves.
She has just few words,
her actions do all the talking.
No, she won't tell you she's given up on men,
yes she's been hurt, but that makes her strong.
Yes, her heart has been broken,
but with the pieces she still wanna try.
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Monday 8 October 2012
Wednesday 14 March 2012
***** WHAT'S YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS? *****
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Two days ago, I logged on to my Facebook page and was surprised at the number of friend requests I got. A 105 friend requests from complete strangers, most were people that must have read one of my poems, articles and short stories on some of the groups I wrote on and others were mutual friends to the friends already on my page. Now, having that deluge of friend requests was not what surprised me. What really surprised me was that none of the people were Africans. There were mostly Americans and a few British folks. I started to wonder where my Nigerian brothers and sisters were. Now, that's not the basis for this piece.
Social networking sites are not places we just log into to ogle at pictures and like or post comments, it's also a place where friendships are made and cultures and beliefs are exchanged. Social Networks has brought along with it many bridges to the wide berth that separates Africa from Asia and The Americas from Europe. Since we can easily make friends on these Social Networking sites, what holds us back from having relationships as well? Isn't it the norm for lovers to first start as friends? Why then are we boxing up our feelings by not giving in to that desire to get to know that person behind your screen that makes you feel special?
The best friends I've made in all of my 25 years were folks I met online, I've never met them in person but they've touched my life in ways my next door neighbor has not even gotten close to. Sometimes, I wonder what is it then that holds most people back from having online relationships. Is it the bad stories you've heard or the bitter experiences you've had?
Some'd say African men are aggressive, Nigerian men are scam artists, Africans are back ward, African ladies are this and that and all Africans need online relationships for is to get a Green card, and now, I want to categorically say that all those assumptions are wrong!!!! You can't pass judgment on a whole race just because of what the media has fed you with or on what your friends might have told you. When you have bias towards everything, even matters that concerns the heart, then you really are not ready for love. I'm no advocate for just online relationships; I'm only just pissed at how biased people tend to be towards online relationships.
Last night, I was going through my news feed when I came across this beautiful picture of a man kissing this lovely woman, then I looked below the picture and read the short story that explained how the couple met. They met online on one of those pages that's populated mostly by those single ladies and gents that would sit in the comfort of their homes, trading bad stories about why interracial relationships are not good, or why long distance relationships are bad and would never work, but when I looked at the picture last night, I laughed at hundreds of people that liked the picture and the many more hundreds that congratulated the couple. Every one of those people that commented failed to mention that only 3 months ago, they were the same people advising the lady in the picture to shun away from African men professing love to them over the internet. The couple met 8 months ago and with TRUST, COMPROMISE AND COMMUNICATION, she risked her comfort by making the 13 hours flight to go see her Romeo and now, they are engaged and would be getting married in June.
Now, tell me. What are those things that make you wary about online long distance relationships?
* Is it the need to feel that physical touch of a lover? You are SINGLE, tell me who is touching you or who you are touching.
* Is it the stories your friends must have told you about bitter experiences? Now, you know yourself that nothing spreads faster than bad news, are you going to base your happiness on hearsays or personal experiences? All relationships have their good and bad times, learn to also seek out good news of the couples that made it work and don't just sit on your behind, saying 'online relationships are not for me because of what this and that said.
* Is it the need for communication? One thing you must know is that online relationships are for serious minded adults. Fact that you are 25 or 50 doesn’t really make you an adult. Would you rather be in a relationship with that man/woman who you can't have a normal conversation with? Statistics says 3 in 10 relationships now start online and with the rate at which technological advancements are creeping up on us, you really have no excuse not to be able to keep your communication going. By communication, I'm not talking about just poking and liking someone's pictures and comments or following them all over twitter as if they knew where they were even going. Communication has gone way beyond that. Any of you ever heard of whatsapp messenger? That's what I use when I see someone I really want to be close to, that way, I get to put a voice to the pretty face on Face book and also get to know if they are for real, and there are always phone calls, Skype, voxer and oovoo. You really have no excuse at not being able to communicate with someone you really like. You can also spice up your communication, there's still letter writing. I know we are gradually forgetting how to write letters but how did you feel in high school when you read or wrote a love letter to and from someone you had feelings for? Relive that moment.
* Is it the time difference and expensive long distance calls? Now, that's where compromise and sacrifice comes in. You can't put a price tag on love and if you really are serious about getting to know this person, you can both work out a schedule that'd be okay for you two to chat and get to know each other better. Make it as point to call that person at least once in a week as your finances would allow.
* Are your friends the reason? I know it sounds funny when you try explaining to your friends that you've met someone online that you are really having feelings for. They might look at you as strange or maybe in need of some counseling to want to have a relationship with someone you've never even met. Now one question for you. Are those your friends in relationships themselves? It's always the single people that give reasons on why you should never try being in an online relationship. Now, are you going to let your friends determine your happiness by letting them box in your feelings? Love is one feeling that you can't suppress no matter how hard you try. It's like trying to hold your breath for 5 minutes.
* All African men are scam artists, aggressive, unfaithful and African women are backward, all they want is a green card? Are you for real? When's the last time you made friends with African folks and found out that they weren't way brighter than the bad brush that's been used to paint them? One thing you must know about Africans is that they love their families and treat their women with respect. An African man would never abandon his kids. I know I won't. Another thing you should also know is that the modern day African is not polygamous; the 'baby mama' syndrome has not found its way to our shores. I can categorically say Africans love better than most of you have been led to believe. You really need to stop with the stereotype, Africa may have her own problems, like every other continent, but one thing you must know is that many Africans are happy staying at home, but would give up the world to go meet with someone they are in love with, no matter where that person is. That's one of the reasons why most African men would prefer the woman travels down to Africa. We've been abused for so long. If a man decides to travel to the US to go meet with someone he loves, why must it seem that he's just travelling because he wants to have a green card? He can't travel for love?
* Would you want to be with someone far away that desperately want to be with you or would you just remain single waiting on that next door neighbour to notice you? He/she just wants casual sex, but that man/woman that's far away, wants more than just that. You two can make arrangements on how best to meet and then take off from there.
Now, tell me, WHAT'S YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS?
Are you married? Good for you.
Are you engaged? Wishing you all the best.
Are you in a relationship? Now, that's one giant step, you need to have the courage to take the last two steps.
Are you single? Now, this post is for you. What's holding you back? Past experiences or things your friends said?
check out more in my new book: click on the link - https://www.createspace.com/4024126?ref=1147694&utm_id=6026
***** WHAT'S YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS? *****
Two days ago, I logged on to my Facebook page and was surprised at the number of friend requests I got. A 105 friend requests from complete strangers, most were people that must have read one of my poems, articles and short stories on some of the groups I wrote on and others were mutual friends to the friends already on my page. Now, having that deluge of friend requests was not what surprised me. What really surprised me was that none of the people were Africans. There were mostly Americans and a few British folks. I started to wonder where my Nigerian brothers and sisters were. Now, that's not the basis for this piece.
Social networking sites are not places we just log into to ogle at pictures and like or post comments, it's also a place where friendships are made and cultures and beliefs are exchanged. Social Networks has brought along with it many bridges to the wide berth that separates Africa from Asia and The Americas from Europe. Since we can easily make friends on these Social Networking sites, what holds us back from having relationships as well? Isn't it the norm for lovers to first start as friends? Why then are we boxing up our feelings by not giving in to that desire to get to know that person behind your screen that makes you feel special?
The best friends I've made in all of my 25 years were folks I met online, I've never met them in person but they've touched my life in ways my next door neighbor has not even gotten close to. Sometimes, I wonder what is it then that holds most people back from having online relationships. Is it the bad stories you've heard or the bitter experiences you've had?
Some'd say African men are aggressive, Nigerian men are scam artists, Africans are back ward, African ladies are this and that and all Africans need online relationships for is to get a Green card, and now, I want to categorically say that all those assumptions are wrong!!!! You can't pass judgment on a whole race just because of what the media has fed you with or on what your friends might have told you. When you have bias towards everything, even matters that concerns the heart, then you really are not ready for love. I'm no advocate for just online relationships; I'm only just pissed at how biased people tend to be towards online relationships.
Last night, I was going through my news feed when I came across this beautiful picture of a man kissing this lovely woman, then I looked below the picture and read the short story that explained how the couple met. They met online on one of those pages that's populated mostly by those single ladies and gents that would sit in the comfort of their homes, trading bad stories about why interracial relationships are not good, or why long distance relationships are bad and would never work, but when I looked at the picture last night, I laughed at hundreds of people that liked the picture and the many more hundreds that congratulated the couple. Every one of those people that commented failed to mention that only 3 months ago, they were the same people advising the lady in the picture to shun away from African men professing love to them over the internet. The couple met 8 months ago and with TRUST, COMPROMISE AND COMMUNICATION, she risked her comfort by making the 13 hours flight to go see her Romeo and now, they are engaged and would be getting married in June.
Now, tell me. What are those things that make you wary about online long distance relationships?
* Is it the need to feel that physical touch of a lover? You are SINGLE, tell me who is touching you or who you are touching.
* Is it the stories your friends must have told you about bitter experiences? Now, you know yourself that nothing spreads faster than bad news, are you going to base your happiness on hearsays or personal experiences? All relationships have their good and bad times, learn to also seek out good news of the couples that made it work and don't just sit on your behind, saying 'online relationships are not for me because of what this and that said.
* Is it the need for communication? One thing you must know is that online relationships are for serious minded adults. Fact that you are 25 or 50 doesn’t really make you an adult. Would you rather be in a relationship with that man/woman who you can't have a normal conversation with? Statistics says 3 in 10 relationships now start online and with the rate at which technological advancements are creeping up on us, you really have no excuse not to be able to keep your communication going. By communication, I'm not talking about just poking and liking someone's pictures and comments or following them all over twitter as if they knew where they were even going. Communication has gone way beyond that. Any of you ever heard of whatsapp messenger? That's what I use when I see someone I really want to be close to, that way, I get to put a voice to the pretty face on Face book and also get to know if they are for real, and there are always phone calls, Skype, voxer and oovoo. You really have no excuse at not being able to communicate with someone you really like. You can also spice up your communication, there's still letter writing. I know we are gradually forgetting how to write letters but how did you feel in high school when you read or wrote a love letter to and from someone you had feelings for? Relive that moment.
* Is it the time difference and expensive long distance calls? Now, that's where compromise and sacrifice comes in. You can't put a price tag on love and if you really are serious about getting to know this person, you can both work out a schedule that'd be okay for you two to chat and get to know each other better. Make it as point to call that person at least once in a week as your finances would allow.
* Are your friends the reason? I know it sounds funny when you try explaining to your friends that you've met someone online that you are really having feelings for. They might look at you as strange or maybe in need of some counseling to want to have a relationship with someone you've never even met. Now one question for you. Are those your friends in relationships themselves? It's always the single people that give reasons on why you should never try being in an online relationship. Now, are you going to let your friends determine your happiness by letting them box in your feelings? Love is one feeling that you can't suppress no matter how hard you try. It's like trying to hold your breath for 5 minutes.
* All African men are scam artists, aggressive, unfaithful and African women are backward, all they want is a green card? Are you for real? When's the last time you made friends with African folks and found out that they weren't way brighter than the bad brush that's been used to paint them? One thing you must know about Africans is that they love their families and treat their women with respect. An African man would never abandon his kids. I know I won't. Another thing you should also know is that the modern day African is not polygamous; the 'baby mama' syndrome has not found its way to our shores. I can categorically say Africans love better than most of you have been led to believe. You really need to stop with the stereotype, Africa may have her own problems, like every other continent, but one thing you must know is that many Africans are happy staying at home, but would give up the world to go meet with someone they are in love with, no matter where that person is. That's one of the reasons why most African men would prefer the woman travels down to Africa. We've been abused for so long. If a man decides to travel to the US to go meet with someone he loves, why must it seem that he's just travelling because he wants to have a green card? He can't travel for love?
* Would you want to be with someone far away that desperately want to be with you or would you just remain single waiting on that next door neighbour to notice you? He/she just wants casual sex, but that man/woman that's far away, wants more than just that. You two can make arrangements on how best to meet and then take off from there.
Now, tell me, WHAT'S YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS?
Are you married? Good for you.
Are you engaged? Wishing you all the best.
Are you in a relationship? Now, that's one giant step, you need to have the courage to take the last two steps.
Are you single? Now, this post is for you. What's holding you back? Past experiences or things your friends said?
check out more in my new book: click on the link - https://www.createspace.com/4024126?ref=1147694&utm_id=6026
Wednesday 22 February 2012
WHAT HE WANTS
WHAT HE WANTS
Oftentimes, I just wonder what it is with some women that make them not to have long lasting relationships especially when they've gotten a good man. Everyman, no matter how accomplished he is, always wants a companion by his side, someone to support and encourage him, someone to love him and someone to clean his tears when he does cry. Every man needs a WOMAN, just as every woman needs a MAN and she must not always be his mother. Now, a man is always moved by what he sees, that's why society ascribes that men tend to be more unfaithful than women. Now, ladies, you know a man is always moved by what he sees, what is it that stops you from maintaining that image he had of you when he first met you? You were classy once, sexual and romantic too. Has marriage and the long relationship robbed you of all that? Reclaim your old YOU!!! Make him ogle at you again, remind him of that old feeling when all he wanted to see was you...... More to share in my upcoming novel..Purchase my new book!!! Follow the link
check out more in my new book: click on the link - https://www.createspace.com/4024126?ref=1147694&utm_id=6026
check out more in my new book: click on the link - https://www.createspace.com/4024126?ref=1147694&utm_id=6026
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